Recently, I found out that he had downloaded apps on his phone (Tinder and How About We) sometime after I moved away.I assure you I didn't find out in a dishonorable way; it was purely an accident that I wish I could forget.
Don't get me wrong: In your shoes, I would be upset, but I think it's possible you can get through this.
Here's how I think you should do it…First of all, I think you're right to not have this conversation over the phone.
Since you're seeing each other so soon anyway, you might as well have this tense conversation in person, where you can read each other's body language and facial expressions.
It sucks that it might mess with your anniversary, but I'm thinking you guys have a lot you should talk about face to face.
What I hope is that he'll tell you openly and honestly why he downloaded these apps and how far he went once he did.
I'm scared to argue over the phone about this so I investigated my leads and found his profile to be deactivated but that still doesn't necessarily demonstrate his intentions on those sites.
I'll be seeing him in less than a week for the first time in months to celebrate our four-year anniversary, and I don't know what to do and how I should address it assuming I even mention it.
"My boyfriend and I had been living together for a year until I moved out four months ago for graduate school.
I have to admit, things have been rocky but for the most part we've been able to get past all of our obstacles of long-distance hardships and trust issues.