We can acknowledge our true desires by writing our deepest relationships desires down in a journal. For instance, for myself I was traveling in Japan at the time when I finally admitted to myself that I really wanted love.
The problem is that when we have experienced a lot of heartbreak and disappointment from our relationships, we try to convince ourselves (and the world) that we don't really want a supportive and loving relationship.
We do this because when we acknowledge it we also have to acknowledge our pain and disappointment.
It's easier to just ignore the whole thing and stuff those emotions deep within our being.
The problem is that We are blind at fully seeing the abilities of creating the love, happiness, and fulfillment that we truly desire that are buried deep within us.
We struggle to fully realize all the miraculous things that we are able to have.1.
A few years ago, I went through a very challenging relationship with a guy that I was dating for four months while living abroad.
This difficult relationship left me in this state of uncertainty, disappointment and distrust (of others, but mostly of myself).
I feared going into any kind of new relationship because I felt that, no matter how hard I'd try, I was going to find myself in another shitty relationship situation.
If a new relationship opportunity arose, I'd experience worry over doing something wrong early on that would then put me on the path once again to stress, disappointment and feeling exhausted.